Tuesday, November 15, 2005

Smile!!!

Hi all! How's things? Hope you're all mighty fine and, most importantly, smiling! And if not, why not try it now - for me, for you, for everybody? :-)

I sometimes get a feeling that someone I know and love isn't having such a great day, so I send them an SMS (text) with just a smile and a kiss - :-) x
It's amazing how many times they call me later that day to tell me what a profound effect it had on the way they were feeling - be it about themselves, their work, the argument they had earlier on, whatever.

So SMILE people, you never know what a difference it will make to someone you see during your day. You may just be buying a newspaper, or getting on a train, passing a stranger, or even looking IN THE MIRROR! Smile :-)

So many times I'll be in a shop, buying whatever. I approach the counter to pay for my goods, and the person serving tells me the price (at least I assume it's me they're talking to, they don't make eye contact). I make some comment about not quite having the right money, but will this do? They grunt and hand back the change. I bid them farewell and smile, but they're not even looking at me.

I can't help thinking that however discontented they are in their admittedly mundane job, how much happier and rewarded they would feel if only they would allow themselves to connect, if only for a fleeting moment, with the person they were 'serving'.

Sometimes I make an extra effort to catch their eye, and if you try you can make them smile, or blush, or even giggle. I try to be complimentary, cheeky, even rude - just to get them to react, to come out of the deep apathy they seem to be so stuck in just for a second; and once they have I can see the difference instantly. They seem flattered, grateful, awake! And I know that even if it doesn't last beyond the next indifferent, rude, superior customer, I have made part of their day brighter, and mine, and maybe it'll rub off on someone else who really needs a smile.

I'm ranting a little now, but living in England can make you a little sad sometimes. To be honest I don't know which is better - to be in America where everyone smiles but you can never be sure who's being genuine, or to be here in UK, where at least if someone is miserable you know they are being straight up! lol

I'd better go, before I really get started.

Meanwhile, here's another piece of my music - all made on my PC this time. It's just a very rough idea of what will come when I can record it properly - the orchestral strings were rushed and the sounds are crap, the guitar had cheese-wire for strings, and there's no tune. But hopefully the fairies that appear at about 1:30 will make you SMILE x

Love 'n' light, your Stuee xxxxxx

P.S. And if that doesn't do it for ya, maybe this will! It's me, exceptionally drunk, still going strong at 7.?? am, on the morning after a bachelor party... If this doesn't make you giggle, you have no soul :-)

51 Comments:

Anonymous Bblayla said...

:-) x


Belinda

2:27 am  
Blogger JackJumpedOverTheMoon said...

Music was... succinct. Best to keep it short they say. :p

Laughter is contagious, especially drunken laughter. Sound like you are having fun!

:D <- big grin

Jack

6:06 am  
Blogger BallerinaGurl said...

You are very thoughtful!! Here is my smiley for you:

:P <<---sticking toungue out at you hehehe

7:05 am  
Blogger Justin Kreutzmann said...

ah, thank you, that made me smile. There's hope for me yet...I do have a soul!
Really cool tune. Would be great for a soundtrack.
Listening to it I started seeing a movie in my mind.

8:38 am  
Blogger Jessica said...

That's a great piece...it matches my mood this morning. Thank you.

P.S. Why did I think the wind sounded so funny in that audio clip of you?

12:49 pm  
Blogger Elizabeth A. said...

Smiling Elizabeth A, here :)

I must tell you that your post is very reminiscent of something someone you know said years ago in an interview.

The man is Pete Townshend, and he said:

The best talent an individual can posess is self-confidence, without it, nobody would smile at a stranger who passes them on the street...."
(it went something like that) But you've got the idea! I never forgot that statement~
I live in the northeastern part of the states, and smiles are rare from strangers here as well......I love to laugh and have fun, life is too short. The looks my husband and I get from strangers when we are laughing at silly things are evn more amusing.....Ever look at the pics of the women on a "shower cap" package? Hysterical! This nearly got us thrown out of a shop the other day.....
Life IS best when you smile, and you never know what you can do for someone with the simplest of gestures.
I love your post.
I'm still smiling~

Take care
EA

5:24 pm  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

That was so funny! Made me laugh
and giggle in a silly way..

BTW, Stuee, I had the exact same thoughts as you yesterday but reversed,that's so odd! I was in the grocery store yesterday, I smiled at a woman, and she looked stunned and didn't smile back! And I thought " Maybe it's because people in the U.S. are so
unused to strangers smiling at them,
maybe in England where people are
more polite, they would smile back."
But today I hear that it's the same over there! I smile at everyone, so does my brother. But we've noticed that a lot of people just act surprised.Others smile, and still others pretend like they don't see you.
I read once that in the act of smiling, even if you don't feel like it, it activates the same chemicals in the brain as if you are smiling for real.IOW, even if you have to force a smile, you will wind up genuinely feeling happier! So you
are giving good, sound advice!
xoxo Lisa

6:15 pm  
Blogger Jessica said...

I think I'd rather be in England, because I tend to be really really fond of crabby people.

For instance, Paul Sr. on American Chopper is my fucking HERO!

7:15 pm  
Blogger Stuee said...

Thanks everyone, so at least I made a few people smile yesterday :-)

Justin, thanks - I thought the same thing. I've been trying to write a song around this piece for ages, but anything I come up with just gets in the way. I think it's better as an instrumental, but (as jackjumpedoverthemoon kindly pointed out) it is short as yet... unfinished.
This I know... 'tis but an acorn of an idea. A meer concept.
I've always wanted to make music for film. I would love to try, but have never come across a film maker in need of a score.

Maybe one day :-)

1:58 am  
Blogger Justin Kreutzmann said...

well, I think you might have just found that filmmaker...

2:14 am  
Blogger Jessica said...

SP, you can write the music to the film I'm starring in, called "7 Bacardis and a Blonde."

ha-ha.

1:41 pm  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

FINALLY!!! I finally was able to download the song, after trying 3 different times yesterday. Including last night. My computer kept hanging up on me, tho' it let me download the funny, laughing one.

This song was rad, Stuee, you are so critical of yourself! The symphonic sounds don't not sound rushed, the guitar was beautiful, tender and sweet, and peaceful.
And I can see why you'd be interested in doing film scores,
you are good at conveying emotions
through music.
Good Job! xoxoLisa

5:06 pm  
Blogger Claire Eliza said...

stuee, you seriously are one of the nicest people i know. i'm so lucky to know you.
the song was amazing, it sounded fab.
and i loved the clip of drunken stuart aswell. hehe.
i hope to talk to you today or tomorrow...we need to catch up. we havent talken since...when...monday? yikes!

xoxo
- claire -

12:28 am  
Blogger JackJumpedOverTheMoon said...

I do realise it's unfinished! I was just being a cunt. :)

I'd love to hear what you end up doing with it.

Jack

4:38 am  
Blogger Stuee said...

Sure Jack, I assumed you were ;-D hehe

4:51 am  
Blogger AlianaDrex said...

I love this post. If you get a moment pop over to my blog and find the post "Call me Harvey" it is my contribution to your friendly people story.
Have a great weekend.
Ali

7:11 am  
Blogger JackJumpedOverTheMoon said...

Do you have any of your drumming up on the web? I'd love to hear it.

Maybe a bit biased,
Jack

12:14 am  
Blogger Stuee said...

Jack no I don't, that's a good point. It's on a few records but I wouldn't expect anyone to go spending money...
Trouble is that most of the stuff I've got recorded is copyrighted.
I'll see if I can dig something out though.
Thanks for the prompt :-)

10:21 am  
Blogger Justin Kreutzmann said...

MORE DRUMS!!

5:11 pm  
Blogger Tallulah said...

I'm late but... The song is absolutely GREAT!!!!!!!!!!! Do you have any more songs like that? GREAT SONG! I LOVE it! ~Tallulah~

9:18 pm  
Blogger PTfan said...

Stuart, if that song was on CD I would buy it! I absolutely love it!

Your laguhing was worth a smile too!

10:05 pm  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

Yep, PTfan, the giggling made me giggle, too.
And what's this about drums, Stuee?
Do find something, these are all great.:)

xoLisa

11:37 pm  
Blogger Janey said...

Thanks for making me smile :) I feel really blessed that when I had my huge, life-changing move (moved from Canada to the States after marrying my husband) that I moved to Tennessee. It's almost automatic to catch someone's eye here and greet them. It took me a bit to get used to it - I kept asking my husband if he knew those people! A simple hello is sometimes all you need to turn your day around.

10:27 pm  
Blogger lryicsgrl said...

Hope to see you on the Attic this week

2:09 pm  
Blogger SuperAmanda said...

Hi Stuart,
I liked you post very much. i found that people in england were much more friendlier than they are given credit for. Maybe its because I'm very gregarious and like to draw people out of being quiet but I seemed to make friends everywhere I went withour really trying. My journeys through your country were some of the happiest times of my life. I doubt that I would be smiling as much as I am to this day w/out dong some seriously wonderful UK time.
Cheers,
Amanda

10:08 pm  
Blogger SuperAmanda said...

oops..'doing' some serious time!LOlhahahaha!

4:03 am  
Blogger Jessica said...

SP, go here.

http://www.sparesomechange.com/funny/church.asp?text=Congratulations%2C+Mr.+and+Mrs.+Stuart+Ross

(hahahahahaHAHAHAHAHAHA)

5:12 pm  
Blogger Gary said...

:o)

yes, in America, everyone smiles.. big white chicklets teeth everywhere.. It was frightening when I first got here.

oh and there's always that "Have a Nice Day!" when I'm in a mood.. love that too.

But today, just for you Stuee

:o)

5:37 pm  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

Oh how I hate the fake chiclets teeth look! Very apt expression, Gary!
It's weird because some of the celebs
look really bad, the teeth, but they don't seem to know it. Like horse teeth, all very uniform and denture- like, I guess. I'll never get used to it. My teeth are white, and clean looking, but not fake looking.I'm trying to avoid that look.

And Hi Stuee, if you are here, you've been laying low lately.
Hope all's well.
xoxoLisa

8:10 pm  
Blogger PTfan said...

Stuee,
Please come to my blog and read the post called No Turn On Red. It's for fun.
Thanks!

10:56 pm  
Blogger Justin Kreutzmann said...

good seeing you on Rachel's show today.
You haven't posted in a while, I was getting worried...heh heh.

9:44 pm  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

Hmm...Justin basically just said exactly what I was going to say. :)
So I guess I will say " What he said."
You were cuter than I knew.You and Jessica make a cute couple. :)
xoxoLisa

10:48 pm  
Blogger Gary said...

Stuee, great to see you on Attic 10 today, am nursing a case of depression that it's over. I'm trying to smile..

:-|

So, I was curious about something, do you write and record your own songs? Do you have a home studio?

1:21 am  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

Hey Gary, sorry you're sad. Stop by my blog, if you haven't already - maybe it will cheer you up a little, to think about things in your life that you are thankful for.

I really think a worldwide generalized
version of Thanksgiving without the
pilgrims or any sort of religion would be awesome. I really do like the idea of a world holiday.Everyone has something they're thankful for.
Hey, Stuee, stop by my blog if you feel like answering:
What are you thankful for? Without the pilgrim theme, just in general.
What is everyone thankful for?
It's a good way to learn about what is important to different people.:)

3:40 am  
Blogger Stuee said...

Guys I'm so sorry, what a lazy git I've been! I must admit I find this posting system a little hard to manage - having to check all the time to see if there's any update on all the blogs including one's own.
It's a bit like fishing!

Gary, yes I do write a bit but generally music rather than songs - though I've been a bit lax since my music computer got trashed earlier in the year and I really couldn't face rebuilding it another time.
I'm moving house in a week or so, and I plan to turn over a new creative leaf and get stuck in though, so WATCH THIS SPACE!

Will blog again soon, promise!
Love you all, Stuee xxx

6:27 am  
Blogger Johanna in Vista said...

Enjoyed that...made me smile.

Thanks.

Johanna in Vista

4:29 pm  
Blogger Britta Ruth said...

Oh Gosh, you're such a sweetheart! The music was great, you have such talent. You're a total cute doll as well.

I am smiling now, thank you!

6:48 pm  
Blogger Jupiter Woman said...

This angel can't help but SMILE when she thinks of you!

1:24 am  
Blogger Justin Kreutzmann said...

you know I dig happiness and all but this is a long time to hold a smile...

1:56 am  
Blogger Claire Eliza said...

hahaha justin that was great

2:34 am  
Blogger Stuee said...

Oi, cheeky!!!

2:35 am  
Blogger JackJumpedOverTheMoon said...

Stuee,

We'll have to write up a tabloid article about how you were conceived by a 12 year old Simon Townshend. Of course, none of the names would be spelled right and when asked, we would say we meant "Simon Townsend" not "Townshend". Who is a different bloke altogether. See? Liable dodging! :D

There I was trying to come up with a famous Ross musician... geez.

Back to Stuee the Frog! (See nabonidus' blog to understand the reference.)

Jack

4:22 am  
Blogger Stuee said...

Ah well there was one...

http://ronnieross1.tripod.com/

4:37 am  
Blogger JackJumpedOverTheMoon said...

I love the baritone sax! :) Nice.

Jack

4:51 am  
Blogger JackJumpedOverTheMoon said...

Stuee,

One more thing to clutter up your blog: (Might be able to start clean with a new entry... jab, jab)

I just had a look through the jazz discography, and I own 3 or 4 of them. I'll have to have a closer listen then! :)

Are you a jazz man at all, or did you run as far away as humanly possible? I did a bit of both. Some tastes I think are passed on purely through lots of exposure... some are rebellion. Although I still don't see what a 20min drum solo does for anyone but the drummer. :p

Don't tell anyone I said that! :O

Jack

6:03 am  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

Heh, 20 minute drum solos are for the rest of the band to go toke a J, drink
some shots,do some coke and grope pretty groupies...
or haven't you seen The Song Remains the same? :D lol

xoxoLisa

2:33 pm  
Blogger lryicsgrl said...

Which Susie did you mean?

2:51 pm  
Blogger E.L. Wisty said...

Hi Stuee,

Never commented here before but I love this post. Love the attitude. I was born with an unfailingly optimistic mindset!

Maria

3:28 pm  
Blogger Stuee said...

Jackie, yeah I've been into selected areas of jazz in a small way over the years. I think it comes and goes in waves. I really love Oscar Peterson, early George Benson, Jimmy Smith, stuff like that - jazz with a groove, a melody, flair, and a sense of humour!
Things like The Mahavishnu Orchestra don't do a lot for me - it's all so serious.

lzgrl I meant Susie who has a blog called susiesheavenlyblog. I found a picture of Lisa there.
I just read some of your blog though, and I'm very pleased to meet you! You're very welcome here anytime :-) x

5:03 pm  
Blogger lryicsgrl said...

Thank you. Stuee, nice to meet you too!

6:54 pm  
Blogger Nabonidus said...

Heh, Mahavishnu Orchestra...
I like one song of theirs, "Birds of Fire" partly because I like to play it for people and say "This is what chaos, insanity sounds like." They really are brilliant, but yes, serious.
Hehheh, if anyone wants to know what
chaos sounds like there ya go.It's wild.

xoxoLisa

8:48 pm  

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